The Rational Male (book)

The Rational Male is a non-fiction book written by Rollo Tomassi, a pseudonymous author. First published in 2013, the book has gained significant attention for its exploration of male-female dynamics, relationships, and personal development. Tomassi draws from his background in psychology, sociology, and evolutionary biology to provide a comprehensive guide for men seeking to improve their understanding of themselves and their relationships with women.

Content

The Rational Male is divided into three main sections: The Basics, Plate Theory, and Practical Applications. Each section builds upon the previous one, providing readers with a clear and well-structured understanding of the concepts Tomassi presents.

The Basics

In this section, Tomassi provides foundational knowledge about gender dynamics, social conditioning, and the ways in which men and women are influenced by various factors. He delves into concepts such as hypergamy, which refers to the tendency of women to seek partners with higher social status, and the importance of understanding one's own intrinsic value. The author also introduces the idea of the "Sexual Market Value" (SMV), which is a measure of an individual's desirability in the dating market.

Plate Theory

Plate Theory is a concept Tomassi uses to describe the benefits of non-exclusivity in relationships. He argues that men should focus on building a broad range of experiences and connections with women, rather than adhering to traditional monogamous expectations. This approach, according to Tomassi, allows men to develop a better understanding of their own preferences and relationship goals, while also providing opportunities for personal growth.

Plugged In

In this section, Tomassi paints the picture of men's "blue pill" ideology. He defines and describes the Average Frustrated Chump (AFC), the Friend Zone, Long Distance Relationships (LDRs), White Knights, the covert contract that is the Savior Schema, and Intergender Friendships.

Unplugging

Tomassi explains how, thanks to scientific discovery and advances in evolutionary psychology, we have a clearer picture than ever of women's mating strategies. He also explains how Game is the most recent countermeasure to a feminine-centric society. He advises men to kill their inner beta and build real, legitimate self confidence in order to embrace healthy masculinity.

Game

Tomassi explores the basics of game from its roots in the early 2000's PUA community through to now and explains the importance of game as well as its function as a countermeasure to the feminine-operative dating and mating strategies.

Hypergamy

Hypergamy is a woman’s natural (which is to say, genetically wired) preference for a higher status male–that is, higher status than herself and also higher status than the other men in her field of vision and also perhaps higher status than men she has known in the past and even (at the extremes) higher status than most men she can personally imagine meeting. That cuts across a range of possible relationships, all the way from a one night stand to marriage. In all cases, women naturally prefer the highest status man they can get. And sometimes they want so much status that they won’t settle on any man they could actually get. - Rollo Tomassi (The Rational Male)

The Iron Rules of Tomassi

Here, Tomassi lays out 9 "Iron Rules" meant as commandments for red pill aware men.

Here they are in short-form:

Iron Rule of Tomassi #1: Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of whose frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #2: NEVER, under pain of death, honestly or dishonestly reveal the number of women you’ve slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #3: Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #4: NEVER under any circumstance live with a woman you aren’t married to or are not planning to marry in within 6 months.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #5: NEVER allow a woman to be in control of the birth.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #6: Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7: It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #8: Always let a woman figure out why she wont fuck you, never do it for her.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #9: Never Self-Deprecate under any circumstance.

Reception

The Rational Male has received mostly positive reviews from readers and critics alike. The book has been praised for its clear, concise writing style and for providing actionable advice that is rooted in empirical research. Some critics have noted that the book's content may not be applicable to all men, as it primarily focuses on heterosexual relationships and does not address the unique experiences of LGBTQ+ individuals. However, the book's core concepts and insights have resonated with a wide range of readers, making it a popular resource for men seeking to improve their relationships and personal development.

Legacy and Influence

Since its publication, The Rational Male has inspired numerous online communities and discussion groups dedicated to exploring and expanding upon Tomassi's ideas. The book has also served as a foundational text for the larger "manosphere," a loose network of websites, blogs, and forums centered on men's issues and self-improvement. As a result, the book has played a significant role in shaping contemporary discourse around gender dynamics and personal development for men.