The Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011 (book)

The Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011 is a self-help book written by Athol Kay, a New Zealand-born author, blogger, and relationship coach. The book, first published in 2011, focuses on improving the romantic and sexual aspects of married life for men by offering practical advice and strategies based on evolutionary psychology and human biology. It has gained popularity and received praise for its candid and actionable approach to improving relationships, as well as criticism for its emphasis on traditional gender roles and alpha male behavior.

The Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011 is divided into four main sections:

1. Introduction and Background: In this section, Kay provides an overview of the book's purpose and discusses the importance of understanding human biology and evolutionary psychology for maintaining a healthy marriage.
2. The Male Action Plan (MAP): This section outlines a step-by-step program for men to improve their attractiveness, confidence, and relationship skills. The MAP includes advice on physical fitness, wardrobe, grooming, and social skills, as well as guidelines for establishing boundaries and maintaining emotional intimacy with one's spouse.
3. Relationship Dynamics: In this part, Kay delves into the psychological aspects of relationships and discusses the concept of "attraction switches," which are traits and behaviors that naturally attract partners to each other. He also covers the importance of maintaining a balance between alpha (dominant, assertive) and beta (nurturing, supportive) traits in a marriage.
4. Sexual Strategies: The final section focuses on improving sexual chemistry and satisfaction within a marriage. Kay provides practical advice on understanding and fulfilling one's spouse's sexual needs, as well as addressing issues related to sexual frequency, variety, and communication.

Legacy

Despite the controversy surrounding its content, The Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011 has become a popular resource for men seeking to improve their relationships. It has also inspired a growing online community centered around Athol Kay's blog and forum, where readers can discuss the concepts and strategies presented in the book, share their experiences, and offer support to one another. Kay has since written several other books on relationships, further expanding on the ideas presented in the Primer.