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== I. Frame is everything<ref>The Rational Male - Frame https://therationalmale.com/2011/10/12/frame/</ref> == | == I. Frame is everything<ref>The Rational Male - Frame https://therationalmale.com/2011/10/12/frame/</ref> == | ||
<blockquote>“Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of whose frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are.”</blockquote> | <blockquote>“Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of whose frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are.”</blockquote>Iron Rule of Tomassi #1 revolves around the concept of "frame," which refers to the subconscious personal narrative that influences a person's decisions, beliefs, and actions. In the context of inter-gender relationships, frame sets the environment in which partners interact. Either one is operating in their own frame or their partner's. Frame is not synonymous with power or interest level. | ||
Establishing a healthy male-frame is vital for long-term relationships (LTRs). If a man fails to provide frame security, a woman may seek to provide it for herself, resulting in an imbalance of power. To ensure a healthy relationship, a man should establish his frame as the foundation before any formal commitment. | |||
Frame is fluid and can be influenced by various factors. However, even strong, independent women crave a man who can establish his frame in their lives, as it contributes to a healthy balance. Ultimately, in a monogamous relationship, one partner will enter the other's reality, and establishing the right frame is crucial for the relationship's success. | |||
== II. Never reveal your notch count<ref>The Rational Male - “You’ve been with how many girls?!” https://therationalmale.com/2011/11/22/youve-been-with-how-many-girls/</ref> == | == II. Never reveal your notch count<ref>The Rational Male - “You’ve been with how many girls?!” https://therationalmale.com/2011/11/22/youve-been-with-how-many-girls/</ref> == | ||
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<blockquote>“Always let a woman figure out why she won’t fuck you, never do it for her.”</blockquote> | <blockquote>“Always let a woman figure out why she won’t fuck you, never do it for her.”</blockquote> | ||
== IX. Never self-deprecate == | == IX. Never self-deprecate<ref>The Rational Male - Sorry... https://therationalmale.com/2011/11/16/sorry/</ref> == | ||
<blockquote>Never seriously self-deprecate with a woman you intend to be intimate with.</blockquote> | <blockquote>Never seriously self-deprecate with a woman you intend to be intimate with.</blockquote> | ||
Revision as of 00:25, 24 April 2023
I. Frame is everything[1]
“Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of whose frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are.”
Iron Rule of Tomassi #1 revolves around the concept of "frame," which refers to the subconscious personal narrative that influences a person's decisions, beliefs, and actions. In the context of inter-gender relationships, frame sets the environment in which partners interact. Either one is operating in their own frame or their partner's. Frame is not synonymous with power or interest level.
Establishing a healthy male-frame is vital for long-term relationships (LTRs). If a man fails to provide frame security, a woman may seek to provide it for herself, resulting in an imbalance of power. To ensure a healthy relationship, a man should establish his frame as the foundation before any formal commitment.
Frame is fluid and can be influenced by various factors. However, even strong, independent women crave a man who can establish his frame in their lives, as it contributes to a healthy balance. Ultimately, in a monogamous relationship, one partner will enter the other's reality, and establishing the right frame is crucial for the relationship's success.
II. Never reveal your notch count[2]
“Never, under pain of death, honestly or dishonestly reveal the number of women you’ve slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover.”
III. The sex is never worth the wait[3]
"Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.”
IV. No shacking up before marriage[4]
“Never under any circumstance live with a woman you aren’t married to or are not planning to marry in within 6 months.”
V. Don't rely on her for birth control[5]
“Never allow a woman to be in control of the birth.”
VI. Women and men love differently[6]
“Women are fundamentally incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved by a woman.”
VII. Spend your time creating new relationships, not digging through the trash[7]
“It is always time and effort better spent developing relations with new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship.”
VIII. Always let a woman figure out why she won’t fuck you, never do it for her[8]
“Always let a woman figure out why she won’t fuck you, never do it for her.”
IX. Never self-deprecate[9]
Never seriously self-deprecate with a woman you intend to be intimate with.
- ↑ The Rational Male - Frame https://therationalmale.com/2011/10/12/frame/
- ↑ The Rational Male - “You’ve been with how many girls?!” https://therationalmale.com/2011/11/22/youve-been-with-how-many-girls/
- ↑ The Rational Male - Wait For It? https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/23/wait-for-it/
- ↑ The Rational Male - Shacking Up https://therationalmale.com/2011/10/06/shacking-up/
- ↑ The Rational Male - Professional Mothers https://therationalmale.com/2011/12/06/professional-mothers/
- ↑ The Rational Male - Women in Love https://therationalmale.com/2011/12/27/women-in-love/
- ↑ The Rational Male - Rooting Through Garbage https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/08/rooting-through-garbage/
- ↑ The Rational Male - Just Be Yourself https://therationalmale.com/2012/01/13/just-be-yourself/
- ↑ The Rational Male - Sorry... https://therationalmale.com/2011/11/16/sorry/