Editing No More Mr. Nice Guy (book) (section)

== The "Integrated Male" ==
The journey from being a "Nice Guy" to an "Integrated Male" is not about transitioning from extreme niceness to becoming a "jerk." Instead, it's about becoming "integrated," or accepting and embracing all facets of oneself. An integrated man appreciates his unique male qualities such as power, assertiveness, courage, passion, imperfections, and mistakes.<blockquote>''An integrated male possesses many of the following attributes:''

''●     '''He has a strong sense of self. He likes himself just as he is.''''' 

''●     '''He takes responsibility for getting his own needs met.''''' 

''●     '''He is comfortable with his masculinity and his sexuality.''''' 

''●     '''He has integrity. He does what is right, not what is expedient.''''' 

''●     '''He is a leader. He is willing to provide for and protect those he cares about.''''' 

''●     '''He is clear, direct, and expressive of his feelings.''''' 

''●     '''He can be nurturing and giving without caretaking or problem-solving.''''' 

''●     '''He knows how to set boundaries and is not afraid to work through conflict.''''' 

''An integrated male doesn't strive to be perfect or gain the approval of others. Instead he accepts himself just as he is, warts and all. An integrated male accepts that he is perfectly imperfect.''</blockquote>