Editing Breaking Free Activities (section)

=== Breaking Free: Activity #34 - Setting Boundaries ===
<blockquote>To help Nice Guys decide if they need to set a boundary with a particular behavior, I have them apply the '''Second Date Rule.'''  Using the second date rule, Nice Guys ask themselves, "If this behavior had occurred on the second date, would there have been a third?" This question helps them see if they have been putting up with something that they shouldn't.

When trying to decide how to deal with a behavior they have deemed unacceptable, I encourage Nice Guys to apply the '''Healthy Male Rule.'''  Following this rule of thumb, they simply ask themselves, "How would a healthy male handle this situation?" For some reason, just asking this question connects them with their intuitive wisdom and helps them access the power they need to respond appropriately.

Are there any areas in your personal relationships in which you avoid setting appropriate boundaries? 

Do you: 

• Tolerate intolerable behavior. 

• Avoid dealing with a situation because it might cause conflict. 

• Not ask for what you want. 

• Sacrifice yourself to keep the peace. 

If you applied the '''Second Date rule''' or the '''Healthy Male rule''' to these situations, how might you change your behavior?</blockquote>